We all have times when we need help, but hesitate to ask for it.
This happened to me when I wanted to make a change on my blog. I wasn’t certain how to add the specific code I needed. I didn’t ask for help with my blog management because I thought I could do it on my own, but mostly, because I didn’t want to burden anyone.
In WordPress, this is called punching the BIG ASS MISTAKE button! Instead of getting help, I did it myself…and blew up my blog!
I had to call my blog guru Kathy Henderson-Hurd to ask for help. She dropped what she was working on to fix my problem, and had to completely reconstruct my blog site!
What could have taken her 10 minutes if I’d asked in the beginning, ended up taking hours. Somehow just saying “oops” doesn’t cover this one. And it happened all because I didn’t want to ask for help.
To be fair, making the mistake of not asking for help isn’t uncommon. In the States, we’ve been taught from infancy that needing help is a sign of weakness. We learn to be “independent” and not ask for assistance. I don’t think this is right.
Needing help is perfectly normal. Not asking for it is not normal. Most people want to help; we just have to learn to be more comfortable asking for it.
It’s time to make it okay to ask for help. NO, actually it’s more than okay; it’s healthy to ask for help when we need it.
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What about you? Is it easy for you to ask for help?
Have you experienced a time when you should have asked for help?
What are your thoughts on how asking for help could be a cultural issue?
There will be no Monday Story Photo Post on May 4th as I will be traveling out of the country. Look for the Monday post on May 11th as there will be a special guest on that day.