Like Star Trek: Raise the shields against anger
With the release of the new Star Trek movie, I’m reminded of how much I love Star Trek. My favorite series was “Star Trek: The Next Generation.” I have to admit, I had a big crush on Captain Jean-Luc Picard. I have the DVD set of this series and have been watching it recently.
In one episode, the USS Enterprise came under attack and Captain Picard commanded his crew to “Raise the shields and go to red alert!” Star Trek fans know these shields are powerful force fields that protect the ship from weapons of evil intent.
A protective shield for anger management
It would be great to have our own protective shields! Imagine someone is angry with you. They’re pushing all your buttons.
Instead of screaming at them in defense you tell yourself to “Raise the shields and go to red alert!” Immediately, your own personal force field surrounds you, protecting you from the angry onslaught.
Sound good? Well, great minds are working on it but it could be some time before such a force field becomes a reality. However, there are things we can do to protect ourselves when we’re exposed to anger.
5 ways to deal with anger
Don’t fight back. This is often the most challenging when you’re feeling attacked. Even if you know you’re right, don’t fight back. Negative energy attracts negative energy. Approach that person later to talk about the issue after they have calmed down.
Be calm. This is also hard to do. When feeling threatened we naturally try to protect ourselves. However, if we stay calm and speak quietly and slowly, we can help reduce the other person’s tension. Take deep breaths and relax.
Remove yourself from the situation. Tell this person you will be back when you can both talk about things calmly. Giving them time to cool off can sometimes be all that’s needed.
Use positive affirmations. There are times when there’s nothing you can do to stop the tirade. When this happens, remind yourself that you don’t own this anger; it belongs to the other person. Repeat your favorite affirmation to yourself silently. Your positive energy will deflect their negative energy.
Write a letter to this person, but DO NOT SEND IT. This is your chance to vent. Write down everything you wish you could have said. Once you have expressed your anger, release it by tearing up or burning the letter. This releases the negative energy to the Universe where it can be dissipated.
If you still feel hurt by someone’s anger write a forgiveness letter. This can help you release any feelings you might still be holding on to.
Anger is an emotion we all feel at one time or another. Even Jean-Luc got angry! We can however, deflect this negative energy in a manner similar to the protective shield on the USS Enterprise. We can boldly go anger free with these 5 simple anger management techniques.