Anti-Valentine’s Day

Couples-OnlyDay of Love

This Sunday is Valentine’s Day, the “day of love.” For some, a much anticipated day of flowers, candy and pretty cards; for others it’s a day to stay in bed and pull the covers over their head.

A couple of years ago, I wrote a post about Valentine’s Day and how difficult this holiday can be if you are single; it is after all, a holiday marketed for couples.

For singles, this holiday doesn’t just ignore you, it slams your face into the importance of “coupledom”; that belief that we all must be WITH someone or we’re NOT someone.

Anti Protest

Well, there are some who are fighting back. There’s an anti-protest against Valentine’s Day, appropriately called ANTI-VALENTINE’S DAY. This movement is gaining momentum – even the card making industry is getting into it, which is kind of scary since they helped start Valentine’s Day:~)

I found it interesting and fun to check this movement out. One of my first visits was to YouTube, where I can always find a clever video about any subject. While I found lots of videos about Anti-Valentine’s Day, I had to screen my selection to keep the PG rating on my site:~)

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A Funny Site

I also found an interesting anti-Valentine’s Day promotion on a funny site that’s a favorite of mine called, Despair.com. The site calls itself “Creators of Demotivation” and it’s known for giving motivational sayings, uplifting messages and even holidays a slightly skewed, but funny twist.

They have an Anti-Valentine’s day offering called Bittersweets. You should check it out, but don’t take it too seriously:~) Here’s a quote from their promotion:

For most, there is no crueler day of the calendar year than that of Valentine’s Day. While a tiny fraction of the population can look forward to a holiday of wine and roses, poetry and song, the vast majority of us can anticipate a day of nausea and grimacing, trauma and grief. ~ Despair.com

Couples Only?

Unfortunately, like most “anti” anything, the Anti-Valentine’s Day movement has a lot of frustration and anger in it. While I appreciate the humor, I’m not promoting getting angry about this day or trashing being in a relationship.

What I am saying, however, is that we’ve allowed this day to become anti-single, rather than a day about love. Love doesn’t mean you have to be a “couple” and Valentine’s Day should not be for couples only. In the post I wrote two years ago, I ended it with these words:

“It’s nice to be with someone special, but if you’re not, it doesn’t mean you don’t have loving relationships or that you can’t enjoy being by yourself. We don’t need other people to complete us; we need them to complement us.”

I still believe these words. So, this Valentine’s Day, whether you’re in a relationship or not, enjoy the “day of love.” Appreciate the good things in your life and show your love for the people you care about, including yourself. That’s the best way to say, “Happy Valentine’s Day.”

* Re: Header Illustration — I used free clip art from the Big Box of Art and Photoshop to create this illustration.