Comments on: The Nature of the Beast http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/ A place to connect and share things learned in this journey through life. Sun, 20 May 2012 11:05:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Sara http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13174 Sara Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:09:28 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13174 @ Tony -- In my case, it took me a long time to stop all contact with my own toxic vampire. They are pervasive people and truly the best thing you do to break the spell is to avoid the person. Keep in mind, the person my friend ran into it was willing to do truly rotten things to my friend with no GUILT. That's kind of scary, don't you think. I always appreciate your thoughts, Tony:~) @ Tony — In my case, it took me a long time to stop all contact with my own toxic vampire. They are pervasive people and truly the best thing you do to break the spell is to avoid the person. Keep in mind, the person my friend ran into it was willing to do truly rotten things to my friend with no GUILT. That’s kind of scary, don’t you think.

I always appreciate your thoughts, Tony:~)

]]> By: Sara http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13173 Sara Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:06:00 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13173 @ Hilary -- Thank you for your concern about my friend. He will recover! Regarding the previous picture post about he bird in the bush, that's exactly what I thought about him...he does look like he doing a Hitchcock cameo, doesn't he? Thanks for sharing your thoughts:~) @ Hilary — Thank you for your concern about my friend. He will recover!

Regarding the previous picture post about he bird in the bush, that’s exactly what I thought about him…he does look like he doing a Hitchcock cameo, doesn’t he? Thanks for sharing your thoughts:~)

]]> By: Sara http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13172 Sara Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:03:58 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13172 @ Walter -- You are proof of what I said to Chris. Often it is <em>after </em>we get in rather deep with a toxic person that we realize "Oops...this might be a BIG mistake!" I suppose it's when we STAY after that realization that we are making a decision to let the toxicity continue to surround us. I don't know if I agree that people in a relationship with a toxic personality have low self esteem. I can't help wondering if the relationship with the toxic vampire creates that low self esteem. Then again, this may be the old "chicken and the egg" debate:~) @ Walter — You are proof of what I said to Chris. Often it is after we get in rather deep with a toxic person that we realize “Oops…this might be a BIG mistake!” I suppose it’s when we STAY after that realization that we are making a decision to let the toxicity continue to surround us.

I don’t know if I agree that people in a relationship with a toxic personality have low self esteem. I can’t help wondering if the relationship with the toxic vampire creates that low self esteem. Then again, this may be the old “chicken and the egg” debate:~)

]]> By: Sara http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13171 Sara Fri, 19 Mar 2010 20:56:58 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13171 @ Chris -- While I agree with what you're saying, it is predicated on a person <em>realizing</em> they're with a toxic vampire. Given that these personalities are hard to recognize and are very good disguising themselves, people can get caught up in their orbit before they realize the person is TOXIC...just my two cents:~) @ Chris — While I agree with what you’re saying, it is predicated on a person realizing they’re with a toxic vampire. Given that these personalities are hard to recognize and are very good disguising themselves, people can get caught up in their orbit before they realize the person is TOXIC…just my two cents:~)

]]> By: Sara http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13097 Sara Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:33:14 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13097 @ Patricia -- I think it's hard to deal with any toxic personality. Because they are so attractive, toxic vampires are hard to recognize and escape:~) @ Patricia — I think it’s hard to deal with any toxic personality. Because they are so attractive, toxic vampires are hard to recognize and escape:~)

]]> By: Patricia http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13081 Patricia Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:30:23 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13081 Very good article here Sara and thank you for sharing. I think folks all over the internet are looking at toxic relationships because they are figuring out how to end the financial crisis in their own back yards...how could they have trusted or been manipulated by others and how can they end this toxic connection and not make this same mistake again...looking for the elixir. Taking on the big financial institutions is just too much, alone, but if we all work together...but then there is this toxic person right in my own neighborhood and wow I don't want to fall for that again... self healing and changing... toxic really strips a person clean to the bones on many levels. I grew up with a sibling who was toxic but not a vampire. I still find myself having the emotions return, just to lesser and lesser degrees. Thank you for sharing. Dot gave me a referral to you site from her recent post Very good article here Sara and thank you for sharing. I think folks all over the internet are looking at toxic relationships because they are figuring out how to end the financial crisis in their own back yards…how could they have trusted or been manipulated by others and how can they end this toxic connection and not make this same mistake again…looking for the elixir. Taking on the big financial institutions is just too much, alone, but if we all work together…but then there is this toxic person right in my own neighborhood and wow I don’t want to fall for that again…
self healing and changing…
toxic really strips a person clean to the bones on many levels.

I grew up with a sibling who was toxic but not a vampire. I still find myself having the emotions return, just to lesser and lesser degrees.
Thank you for sharing.
Dot gave me a referral to you site from her recent post

]]> By: Spousal Abuse – Emotional | Deeper Issues http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13079 Spousal Abuse – Emotional | Deeper Issues Tue, 16 Mar 2010 02:22:55 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13079 [...] Sara Healy of A Sharing Connection has just posted on the female emotional abuser. [...] [...] Sara Healy of A Sharing Connection has just posted on the female emotional abuser. [...]

]]> By: Tony Single http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13068 Tony Single Mon, 15 Mar 2010 13:08:30 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13068 Yup, been there, done that... unfortunately. And I don't think I'm completely over it. I'm so not over it that if I ever saw this chap again I think old wounds would be reopened just like that. And I'd want to hang around to see if anything could be resolved between us. Man, talk about a nutcase (me, I mean), but that's what you want to do when you thought they were your friend and still entertain the possibility that they could be. :( Enlightening article, Sara. Thank you. .-= Tony Single´s last blog ..<a href="http://trottersville.com/2010/03/15/count-zero/" rel="nofollow">Count Zero</a> =-. Yup, been there, done that… unfortunately. And I don’t think I’m completely over it. I’m so not over it that if I ever saw this chap again I think old wounds would be reopened just like that.

And I’d want to hang around to see if anything could be resolved between us. Man, talk about a nutcase (me, I mean), but that’s what you want to do when you thought they were your friend and still entertain the possibility that they could be. :(

Enlightening article, Sara. Thank you.
.-= Tony Single´s last blog ..Count Zero =-.

]]> By: Hilary http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13056 Hilary Mon, 15 Mar 2010 04:27:23 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13056 I'm sorry your friend went through such a tough relationship. You wrote well on the matter. I'm sure most of us have encountered this character type at some point in our past. On your previous post, that bird reminds me of the old Alfred Hitchcock profile for some reason. :) I’m sorry your friend went through such a tough relationship. You wrote well on the matter. I’m sure most of us have encountered this character type at some point in our past.

On your previous post, that bird reminds me of the old Alfred Hitchcock profile for some reason. :)

]]> By: Walter http://sarahealy.com/index.php/2010/03/11/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13052 Walter Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:32:35 +0000 http://sarahealy.com/?p=4756#comment-13052 Once upon a time in my life, I have encountered such personality. I never would have thought that I would fall in love with such character. After suffering the pain, I have realized that it's my fault that I have allowed myself to suffer. In reality, we all play a major part in dealing with toxic vampires; they cannot affect us unless we are emotionally weak and has a very low self esteem. :-) Once upon a time in my life, I have encountered such personality. I never would have thought that I would fall in love with such character. After suffering the pain, I have realized that it’s my fault that I have allowed myself to suffer. In reality, we all play a major part in dealing with toxic vampires; they cannot affect us unless we are emotionally weak and has a very low self esteem. :-)

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