Hanging on a Thread of Doubt

photo by fishysam

Swinging in the Moment

I met a woman at a workshop, who told me a story about visiting a resort that featured circus training for its visitors.

She decided to try the trapeze. In a short time, she was swinging from the bars with ease, but she couldn’t bring herself to grab the next bar. It was just far enough away that she would have to let go of her bar to grab it and this terrified her.

She worked on trying to overcome her fear for most of her vacation until finally, there was only one day left.

On that day, the practice session began as all the others had. She would swing out with ease, but once the other bar was in reach, she would hesitate and the bar would swing back out of her reach. It happened again and again.

While she was waiting in line for another try, one of the instructors came up to her and said quietly, “Teresa, you have to learn to stop doubting yourself. You know there’s a safety net to catch you if you fall. If you want to grab the other trapeze bar, you have to choose to let go of yours.”

As she climbed up the stand to grab the trapeze bar, she knew he was right. She determined that this time she would succeed; she wasn’t going to let doubt stop her again.

The Moment of Choice

She grabbed the bar and began to swing, higher and higher. As she watched the other bar coming towards her, she made her choice. She opened her fingers, let go of her bar and reached out for the other one.

She promptly landed in the safety net with a thud. After a few more falls, she was finally able to grab the other bar and swing victoriously to the other side. She had done it! A cheer erupted from the other participants and the instructors.

She learned two things from this experience:

1. Falling into the net wasn’t as bad as she thought it would be; she did it many times:~)

2. Her fears were feeding her doubt and causing her to hesitate each time. Once she made the decision that doubt wasn’t going to stop her, she trusted herself and easily let go of the bar. Teresa summed her story up by saying that her defining moment wasn’t when she grabbed the other trapeze bar, or even when she let go of her bar.

Rather, it was the moment between these two actions when she didn’t know what would happen next. At that moment, she had to trust herself even if she was afraid. It made her feel completely free and powerful.

I like this story. It’s one I pull out to remind myself that I can choose to let go of whatever is holding me back. I have to make up my mind to take action, face my doubts and accept with trust that small moment when I don’t know what will happen next.

What about you?

Do you have something you need to let go of today?

Is doubt causing you to hang on to it?

If so, what do you need to do to put your doubt in its place and trust yourself?

Note to my readers:

I am having some elective surgery and it may keep me away from my blog for a few days. Therefore, I will not be able to reply to comments. Please feel free to leave them and I will respond as soon as possible. I do hope you enjoy this post! Thanks:~)