Oh, To Say I Am Sorry
A few days ago, JC and I had a fight. Actually, it would be more correct to say “I got in a fight with JC.” I was in a crabby mood and he did something that irritated me.
I stomped around in a mini tantrum. He tried to reason with me, but I would have none of it. Eventually, he went outside to hit some golf balls, telling me he’d talk to me later when I had calmed down.
After he left, I sat on the porch feeling miserable. I wasn’t speaking to him but my anger was basically gone.
While rocking in my chair I realized I was at fault. I was tired from being up early with our old dog for her “crack-of-dawn” pee break.
When he returned I looked up at him and realized I had to make a choice. I could stay angry or I could say “I am sorry.” This should have been an easy choice.
Instead, I found saying “I am sorry” difficult. They are just three words. I had acted badly, yet it was hard to admit my mistake and apologize.
The Apology Changes Everything
I remembered a problem I’d had with a company I’d been a customer with for over 20 years. I had sent them a check with the wrong company name on it. I was promised they would void the check because I was sending them a corrected one, but instead, they cashed it.
When I called to find out why, I was given all sorts of excuses. I was passed from person to person and after receiving more excuses, I became angry. Because of that incident, I canceled my service with them.
All I had needed to hear from them were the same three words I was finding hard to say to JC: “I am sorry.”
If the staff had acknowledged their mistake in cashing the check, I would have been fine with it. Instead, they argued with me and useless negative energy was passed back and forth; just like what I had done with JC.
As I sat huddled in my rocker with JC waiting to see what I would say, I looked up at him and said, “I am sorry. It was my mistake.”
He smiled and gave me a hug. I smiled back at him, immediately feeling relieved because I knew I had said the right thing. Saying “I’m sorry” was much easier than I’d thought.
What about you?
Is it easy for you to say these three words when you’re angry?
Can you think of a situation when you were in the wrong and couldn’t or didn’t say you were sorry? Do you regret it?
How do you feel about getting angry? Do you avoid it or has it been useful to you at times?
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